The Cost of a Convenient Truth

Assumptions:

How often are our actions and thoughts a derivative of falsehoods? Convenient defenses that keep uncomfortable truths at bay.

As you know, shielding ourselves from the truth allows for ease. “Ignorance is bliss.”

Sometimes these wayward thoughts arise unconsciously, but more often, they are deliberately placed before us—and temptation gets the better of us. We choose to ignore the opportunity to slow down and ask another question, digging for the nuances which, while often complicates the path, leads to deeper connections, trust, and yes, even the truth.

I venture to guess it is not entirely conscious, just convenient. A trap that we find ourselves in, which over time becomes our fallback.

What has been the cost of these assumptions? Sometimes only a minor misdirection, while other times it may have cost you a relationship.

Assumptions rob us. Led by insecurity and avoidance, our assumptions override any opportunity to better understand each other, often becoming the prison bars through which we see the world.

So why are we so willing to disregard the opportunity to clarify and choose the unexamined narrative?

• Efficiency: Our brains crave efficiency, and mental shortcuts save time and allow us to compartmentalize ideas and move on.

• Protection: Asking another question risks upending the personal narrative which may require humility and vulnerability. For many, this feels too risky.

• Current culture: Slowing down to prioritize accuracy over ease is counterintuitive in the age of instant gratification and quick turnarounds. We are simply moving through conversations and thought rather than leaning into contemplative ideas.

• Conflict avoidance: Leading with curiosity in the unknown might require a difficult conversation—that in itself is enough of a threat!

As you strive to be the best leader you can be, what are you prepared to do? The choice is yours.

Do you take the ease of assumption over the discomfort of truth-seeking?

Being committed to the truth is not for the faint of heart. Finding clarity is messy and may require reexamination of long held beliefs. Simultaneously, it may just be what brings you peace and connection.

This is not about judgment. It is about meeting others with openness, honesty, and humility. It is also about finding the humanity in others and trusting each other with your story.